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Dear Confused Ex,

It's not wrong to have feelings for your friend/ex. In fact, it's completely natural. So is feeling awkward with each other right after a break-up. This all happened recently - a few weeks isn't a long time - so try to be patient. Hearts take time to heal, and a flame once sparked takes time to fizzle out.

I have a feeling that your relationship didn't end because of a specific person. Yes, your friend/ex started liking someone else, but that probably wouldn't have happened if your romantic relationship was going great. If he felt compelled to look outside it, then maybe you two weren't working so well as a couple, and are destined to be just friends.

If you find it hard to spend a lot of time with your friend right now, do know that it's okay to put some space between you. Sometimes, it helps to spend time with other friends and be reminded of all the other stuff/people in your life, so you're not too focused on just one person/situation. Once you're back on your emotional feet (so to speak) and feeling more normal, you can also add him back into the mix.

Also, if it's difficult for you to hear about this new girl he likes, don't feel like a bad friend. The used-to-be-dating, now-back-to-friends thing can be tricky, and it's okay to change the subject, or be honest that it feels weird to talk about, and ask that you talk about something else. If he respects your feelings, he will understand, and not burden you with the details of his new crush, which is only fair, considering what you used to be to each other.