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Dear Writer,
You are not nothing. And if it makes you feel any better, lots of people peak before they hit high school. Your brother may be all that now, but in a few years, who knows how he'll be doing. (Hopefully well, for his sake, but it's early to tell, right?)
Anyway, there is no use comparing yourself to your brother. I think you're fighting a losing game, and you're putting up fences between you and your family members, which is really sad. I guarantee you that your parents love you, and are proud of you, but you are so sensitive to the brother issue that you're making it hard for you to feel it, and maybe for them to show it.
Sit down with your parents and talk to them about this, when they have some uninterrupted time. It's likely they have no idea you're feeling overshadowed by your brother, because they probably value and love you for completely different reasons. Share your feelings, and listen to them when they tell you theirs. Hopefully when they realize you feel overlooked, they will work harder at making you feel just the opposite. I think you can be way happier in your house, and in yourself, and it all starts with some basic communication of your feelings.
