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Dear DNAM,
You have the opposite problem of many girls who write to me, complaining that their parents don't want to let them date. I think your parents need a reality check about how lucky they are, not to be dealing yet with all the issues that could be involved with you dating.
You might want to mention to your parents that you appreciate their interest in your love life, but that dating these days is not what it used to be when they were young. Maybe they need to hear that some guys expect major physical activity after just one or two dates, and that more than one girl at your school (I'm just guessing) has gotten pregnant, had an STD, or otherwise had their life sidetracked in a major way, because of bad dating choices.
Have a chat with your folks. Ask them to sit down with you when they've both got time for it, and tell them that you get enough pressure from friends at school, so it's really hard to feel it at home too. Let them know you want to wait until you meet someone really special before you start all this dating business, because you've seen what a toll and distraction it can be from your friends, and ask your parents to support you in this (very mature, I have to add) decision.
PS - if your parents are really worried about the lesbian issue, put their minds at rest by telling them there is a big difference between not wanting to date guys, and wanting to date girls.
