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Dear Jellybean,

My mom and I used to be best friends a few years back. But since then, her new boyfriend has come into the picture, and I got into a serious relationship for a year. My relationship started getting a little bit more... 'mature', if thats the best way of putting it, and I had to ask my mom for birth control. She was really mature about it at first and admitted I was getting older and she should expect this type of thing, so she told me she would get it when I tell her I'm actually starting to do those types of things. Well, I told her after it happened, and she freaked on me and him, calling us bad names saying we were immature and stupid to be doing that unprotected, even though we did use a condom.

But her boyfriend is very sexual, and my brother and I never got along with him, nor did we agree with the sexual comments and gestures towards my mom that he did for so long infront of us, so both my brother and I moved out. He went to his own place and I went to live with my dad for a summer. But every night I would cry myself to sleep because I missed her, and all my dad and I did was argue. So I went back home, after my mom told me I would have to put up with it.

Now everyday, my mom and I argue when her boyfriend is not around. It's like I get blamed for everything bad that happens in her life, but when he comes around, she turns into a total different person. She goes from making me feel bad about myself, to smiles when he gets home.

I wanna go back to the way it used to be so bad, but everytime I try talking to her about it, she just gets upset and walks away. I have tried tons of approaches but none have worked. Please help me Jellybean.

-Desperate and Alone