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Dear Jellybean,
I would sooooo love you if you helped me with this. My problem is, my parents don't think I'm very responsible. Not that they don't trust me, they just don't think I'm that responsible, so I can't do very many things. For example, my brother, sisters and dad all were able to go places on thier own at my age, and I mean like, my dad went to different countries, my sisters and brother got to visit different states, and I can't even go to the mall alone. It's not like we don't have enough money or something is preventing us to be able to do things, I'm just not responsible enough. Can you please help me make my parents think I'm more responsible? Thanks!
Irresponsible girl
Dear Irresponsible girl,
Here's the thing: You can't just tell someone you're responsible and expect them to believe you. You need to prove it to them.
So how can you do this? By acting mature in your everyday life with your family. Do your chores without your parents having to beg or yell at you. Pick up after yourself around the house. Keep your room reasonably clean. Offer to set the table for dinner sometimes, or help with the dishes afterward. Come home when you are expected, and phone your parents when you're going to be late. Don't freak out over minor arguments, don't roll your eyes at your folks, and speak respectfully to them.
Keep up this routine and your parents will see with their own eyes what a responsible girl you are. Then you can start asking for small freedoms - like going to the mall alone, or at least letting your parents drop you off there to hang out with friends they know - and you'll have a better chance of them saying yes.
