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Dear Jellybean,
I have only been to my boyfriend's house once and that was it, plus everytime I ask my parents, they would like, "why, when, and what are you gonna do over there?". Please help, How do I get my parents to trust me enough, so I can go to my boyfriend's house?
-Helpless
Dear Helpless,
I think there is a matter of trust here - but it's not only about you. Your folks don't know your boyfriend's parents. They probably have no idea what his house is like, what kind of supervision you two get over there, or what kind of people his mom and dad are. That's why they are worried - they have their own ideas about how you should be supervised, and they don't know if that's happening - if his parents share their standards - when you visit his home.
What could fix this? Arranging for your parents to meet your boyfriend's parents. If your folks can meet his folks, and see that they're nice people who share their values and standards, then they will be far more likely to allow you to spend time in their home.
Ask your parents if you can invite your boyfriend's family over on the weekend for lunch, a barbeque, or a picnic in the park. It will provide everyone the chance to get to know each other, promote good feelings, and hopefully end up delivering the result you want. Plus, your parents will feel included in your social life in a way, and parents always eat that up. :)
