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Dear Jellybean,
I really like this guy and he hasnt said that he doesnt like me and he knows i like him. but theres a problem. It's my friends. They see him in the hall and they will smile and wave etc and they do a bunch of stuff thats kind of unnecessary.
I feel like they are ruining any chance i might have had with him. i have talked to them and asked them to stop but they just wont. im So frustrated!! Help please?
Sincerely,
Want my friends to back off
Dear WMFTBO,
How annoying. I have so been there - sometimes it seems like friends have nothing better to do than muck up our romantic lives, because they're loving the drama of our crushes. It's crazy-making!
Even though they're acting like goofs, your friends probably mean well. But maybe thley just don't get that by interfering and acting all cute, they could be wrecking your chance to actually date this guy.
Try talking to your friends again. Tell them, "I know you're having fun, but this is MY crush. I'm asking you nicely, please leave him alone. I need to do this in my own time."
Your friends might think they're doing you a big favor by "helping" your crush know you (and they) exist. This may or may not be the case, but it's not what you want. You might remind them that help is only "helpful" when it's wanted. Try to help them understand that, and also that by acting this way, they are really upsetting you (they might not know it).
If your friends can't control themselves, in the future you might have to keep your crushes a deeply-guarded secret, so this kind of thing doesn't happen again. You can tell them that too, or not - but a girl's got to do what a girl's got to do!
