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Dear Left out,
It's difficult for me to say exactly what kind of friend she is. It's great that you have approached your friend directly about your feelings, because honest communication is what true friendships are all about. But if your friend is still spending a lot of time with this new girl and leaving you out of their activities, maybe it's time to try something else.
Have you tried coming up with plans for all three of you, instead of waiting for them to include you? Try that, if you haven't already. Invite them both over to your place for a sleepover, ask them to go shopping with you after school, or see if they want to go see a movie with you on the weekend. Be proactive in trying to create opportunities for all three of you to bond, and do your best when it happens to get closer to both of them.
If you try all that and still feel like you're drifting apart from your one friend, it might be a good idea to fill up your "friendship basket" with more "eggs", if you get my meaning. In other words, it's awesome to have a BFF, but it's never a great idea to count on one person to satisfy all your friendship needs. That just makes a girl clingy, which can drive friends away.
Be sure you're working on your other friendships too, and if you don't have any, then focus on making some new friends. Maybe joining an after-school activity, or taking a weekend course, would bring you in contact with people who share your interests and might become real buds. I hope you and your friend get closer again, but just in case you don't, it's smart to have a backup plan.
