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Dear Taylor,
Your friend sounds like a natural flirt - and she hasn't done anything wrong. She's just being herself. You have decide whether you like her the way she is, or not. If you find yourself unable to hang around her without silently criticizing everything she does, then maybe she's not really the friend for you.
However, if you do think she's a good person and a nice friend, but that's just being overwhelmed by your feelings of jealousy toward her (which come through loud and clear in your letter), then maybe it's not the friendship that needs an overhaul, but your self-image. Why do you feel so upset when someone else gets attention - is it because you'd like to be admired and flirted with, but don't know how?
When you told your friend about what that guy said, by the way, you were being purposefully mean. In other words, you're the one who acted badly. A good friend would have said "I don't know" or "Don't worry, everything's fine." A friend does her best to protect a friend's feelings. If you can't do that for your friend, you don't really deserve the title.
I think it's important for you to realize that the problem here mostly lies in yourself, not with your friend, and don't give her a hard time. Do some work on your own self-confidence - it will pay off in you being happier in the long term, I assure you.
