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Dear Needs to let go,
I am terribly sorry to hear about your friend'd death. You have been through a terrible tragedy, and it is no wonder that you are still feeling a great deal of sadness about it. Losing a friend is one of the most difficult things that can happen to a person in this lifetime.
I agree that you have to find a way out of your current sadness, but I don't think you need to "let go" of your friend. She was someone you loved, and still love, and she will always be a part of your heart. Even if you tried, you probably could never forget about her. You will always have her with you. So don't worry about that.
Take some time to think about what your friend would have wanted for you, and for her own life, if she had remained here with you. Don't you think she would have wanted to go on with her life, experiencing everything that it had to offer, and taking advantage of every possible moment to be happy and appreciate the time she had on this Earth? I think that you must make it your mission to live this life FOR her. Make the most of your life, don't waste a moment, and you are actually paying an incredible tribute to your friend, who couldn't do that herself, but would want it for you. She missed out on a lot... but she would never want you to miss it!
So don't worry about finding things to reflect your friend's life. Every time you smile, try something new, experience a moment of happiness, you are celebrating the importance of finding joy in life - something that, had your friend lived, she would be trying to do herself. You are celebrating the wonder of still being here, and not wasting something that your friend would have treasured.
I hope that dwelling on these thoughts will give you a new purpose and reason to be happy in your life. Sometimes, though, we get stuck in a place of grief, and that's when it is important to acknoweldge that we need extra help. If you are unable to break out of the sadness you are feeling, please reach out and get the help you need to go on with your life. Counseling with a professional therapist can help because it allows you to talk about your loss and express strong feelings. Many counselors specialize in working with teens who are struggling with loss and depression. If you'd like to talk to a therapist and you're not sure where to begin, ask an adult or school counselor. Your doctor may also be able to recommend someone. For immediate help, you can also call one of the free teen hotlines - you'll find a link to phone numbers in the advice menu of this site.
