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Dear Lonely and Upset,
I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. It's always tough when you feel like people who were so close to you are drifting away. It's even tougher when you're putting all the effort in and they aren't responsive. Growing away from friends isn't uncommon, especially around this age. You are all deciding what you like, who you like... basically finding out who you are. It sounds like your old friends have gotten very close, so presumably they're finding a lot in common. As you say, they talk about things you can't join in on. They have changed since you three used to hang out - and for whatever reason, the differences between you guys as you grow up, are pushing you apart.
I know that it's hard to feel rejected and left out by friends, but I think there comes a point where you have to stop chasing after people, who aren't chasing you back. You have tried your best to keep contact with them, and they've been kind of rude about not making any effort with you. They ignore you and don't include you in conversations, and that is just not friendly at all.
I think that, for better or worse, you need to accept the new reality - that your old friends are different than they used to be, and you and they might not end up being close again, at least not for now. Of course you're going to feel sad about this, but don't get stuck moping and crying. Take charge of your life, and make an effort to start hanging out with new friends - those people who don't ignore you, and treat you with some basic respect.
As you move on from this situation, remember that friendship is always a two-way street. If a friend doesn't try to be a good friend back to you, no matter what your history together, the friendship will crumble. Do your best to be a good friend to the new people you meet and like - but also expect them to treat you well. You deserve no less.
