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Dear Confused and Torn,
Wendy likes Tom - in an on-and-off way, but it's clear that she has feelings for him. That came first, before he began flirting with you. You should NOT tell Wendy that Tom has been flirting with you. (Your friend who gave you that advice might mean well, but it's bad advice). Doing so would only make Wendy feel awful, and she would probably blame you, even though you're not at fault.
Instead, here's what to do: Be a good friend to Wendy. Be friendly to Tom - friendly like you would be with Wendy, or any other friend - but nothing more. Don't flirt with him, and if he flirts with you, pretend you don't notice. You don't have to be rude - just act like he's no different than your female friends, and pay him no extra-special attention. And if you can be around him a bit less, in a casual way, then do that. Do it for Wendy.
If Wendy asks if you like Tom, laugh off the idea as ridiculous. Say something like, "No way, I don't see him that way at all. Besides, he's your crush, and I would never do that to a friend."
As for your other friend, the bad-advice giving one, I think she's having a bit too much fun with all this drama. Tell her the situation is over, you've decided to just ignore it, and don't yak about it with her anymore. She's stirring the pot, and all this talk could end up getting back to Wendy, which could only damage your friendship.
