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Dear Jellybean,
At the beginning of this year I became friends with this girl. I kinda knew her last year, but this year we had all the same classes, lunch, everything, so it kind of just happened. But as the year went on, she started getting really mean and even talking trash. I thought ok whatever, she's just being a person. Then she started being really deliberately mean to me, making fun of the way that I did stuff. I told my boyfriend about how it was upsetting me now, and then she started bugging one of my boyfriend's friends, so he told her exactly what he thought of her behavior. She got really mad. now she's talking even more trash, and best of all, this weekend she's going out with this girl who absolutely hates my guts and her friends! She also ditched me from an activity I'm organizing that she promised she would do to hang out with that same girl. All of my friends who are also friends with her are COMPLETELY oblivious to everything she's doing (even though she's talked trash about them too), so it's like I have no support other than my bf. and I have to see her every second I'm at school! I'm really upset, what do I do?
Dear Writer,
Take the high road. It's the more difficult path, but it will lead to a better destination in the end. This girl sounds semi-evil, and everyone is going to notice that sooner or later. They will see it sooner, if by comparison you are nothing but sweetness-and-light. So don't gossip about this girl, don't start rumors, and if you can stomach it, "kill her with kindness" by being really nice to her and refusing to get dragged into a catfight. If you keep this up, and she keeps acting mean, people won't be oblivious for long - and you'll wind up looking like the "good one", while she will look bad. You win!
