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Dear Jellybean,

My friends have been getting the wrong idea of me. Here's the story:

One of my friends that loves singing sang me one of the songs she wrote after I sang one of mine, and she asked me what I thought of it. I told her I liked the song, which I did, and that i'd love to hear another one some time. Since we were on the topic of opinions on music/singing, she asked me what I thought of her singing. At first, I asked her if she wanted the honest answer, and she said yes. (Right now, I think you should know that she's really sensitive to critisism.) I told her (gently!) that I really didn't like her singing, then I said something that I thought she should work on to be a better singer because she had potential. I half expected her to cry, half didn't, because like I said she's really sensitive to critisism. I was on the line for 2 hours trying to calm her down and explain everything, but it led to a bigger argument. Then my mom told me to get off the phone, so I decided to try talking to her in school the next day.

She told 2 of my other friends (lets put the letters P and A to identify them) about what happened over the phone. I talked to A about it, and she listened to my side of the story. But she also listened to what P thought of me, which wasn't very pretty. P had said that I was being very self centered in saying that the other friend was a bad singer just because I thought I was the best singer in the world. I don't think that, but I guess that P was still mad about the 4th grade, when I did the same thing to her, and I tried to let her off gently. She said she stopped singing because of me, and that got A to join her. I didn't mind that, P gets little minions anyway. I wanted to yell at P, and ask everyone that was involved why MY opinion mattered so much, but I decided not to. I also wanted to yell that I didn't think that I was the best singer in the world, but I was very afraid of losing the "minion" friends, so I kept that to myself to.

I tried to be the bigger person and let everything go, I managed to make up with the singer friend, so she asked if I was still ok with P. I said yes and that I was trying to be the bigger person about what she said and just brush it off. Turns out, the singer friend was on the phone with P and telling her all this (we were in a chat room). Singer notified me of this after she told P everything, and she typed that P said that if I was trying to be the bigger person, she was going to trash me and let the whole school (including my crush who really doesn't have a first impression of me yet!!!) know that i'm apparently self centered and thinking that I have that kind of authority.

And that's how it goes.

I have absolutely no idea whether to explain, ignore, or what!!! I need help!!! I'm sorry this is so long by the way.

-Katti