It's been days or weeks since your breakup, and your heart's still in a million pieces? Stop hurting, and start living again! Myjellybean.com has tips for bringing the smilies back into your life.
If you're moping around weeks after a breakup, telling your friends for the billionth time about how he would tuck your hair behind your ears, or why you should have been suspicious about him spending so much time with that girl... it's time to let it all out, and then let it go. Give yourself one last wallowing session, and make it count. Let yourself really wail and mourn over the breakup, get all your emotions out, scream and vent and quake. Then stop. Decide you're over it, and refuse to spend any more time on it. Go forward. Maybe with a teddy bear to clutch at night - but go forward.
Now that he's your ex, he's not the guy you moon over anymore. You have to teach your heart to see him in a new light, so it doesn't skip a beat when you run into him. Close your eyes and remember negative images, like when he had pizza grease all over his chin, or the ugly smirk he got on his face when he was sneakily eyeing other babes. Then imagine sticking him in a cannon, and shooting him into outer space. That feels better, doesn't it? Whenever you get nostalgic about the good times, remember a bad time and boot him off the planet, mentally. Ahhhh.
Yes, your relationship ended and that's sad. But that doesn't mean it was all for nothing. The end of a romance can be a wonderful time to learn about yourself. Look at what you reecntly discovered about you. Maybe you found out that you have the ability to really be there for someone in a crunch. Or, that you enjoy double dating with friends. Check the less-positive things you learned too - perhaps you were too trusting of someone who hadn't earned it. The bottom line: Analyze what was right and wrong about your old relationship, and it will help you to create a much better one in the future.
Weekends can be tough when you're used to spending them with him. Call or talk to friends at school, and set up fun, girls-only plans for the weekend. You can form a Saturday night club with single girlfriends, so you always know who you'll be spending it with. Do fun things like slumber parties, jamming with your musical instruments, or popcorn-and-video fests.
Meet a fascinating girl: yourself! Do the things you've been dying to try or that you'd put on hold because he thought they were lame. Rent that movie he wouldn't see with you, enroll in that acting class he laughed at, start your own Web site even though he didn't think you'd be good at it. Show yourself how fabulous you can be when you believe in yourself, and try something out of the ordinary.
Just when you thought it was safe to get back into dating... whoa! You're back in love. But try to see this new guy for who he really is. He's not your ex, and he's not the antidote to your ex either. He is a new person, with his own thoughts, feelings, habits, etc. Get to know him for him. And if you're using him to get over your ex, don't let things get too serious, until you can give love without thinking of someone else. You don't want to end up breaking his heart.
Arg! Sometimes an ex will start calling just as you're getting over him. If he asks you to give it one more try, think hard about why you two broke up in the first place. In 99 percent of breakups, it's better to cut him loose and celebrate the new, improved, I won't-settle-for-anything-less-than-a-great-guy you.