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Dear Jellybean,

For around five months, I've been losing one of my best guy friends to drugs. He was my friend for around three years. Before we became great friends, he had "other" friends, who were into smoking, drinking, sex, and more illegal matters.

This friend confided to me one time and told me he hates hanging around those people, and can really be himself around me. I was really happy I made him feel that way. But soon his old friends caught up with him.

Around May he admitted to me that he had a problem with smoking, and I told him that I'll always be there when he needs me. But after a while, he ignored me and completely shut me out to hang out with his old friends. Now, he's smoking more dangerous things, and I'm getting worried.

He knows I care about him and his health, because I used to tell him that all the time. My friend says that drugs make him "happy." Because of all these people he's around, there's no way I can influence him to make the right choices. They all control him. And worst, I feel like there's nothing I can do anymore.

Not only am I asking on how to get through to him, but if there's even hope on being his friend again. Like I said, I'm nothing to him now. He actually seems to be having more fun with his old friends. I care about him, to a point where I will do anything for him. But if he doesn't care now, why should I? Right? And if I'm not right, what should I do? Right now it doesn't feel like I can do anything to help him anymore.

-Bella