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Dear TayShanae,

It can be hard to get over a past love, and even harder not to compare each new guy to him. The fact that you're doing so means you're not quite over your ex - but it doesn't mean you should break up with your new boyfriend, or harden your heart to him.

It takes time to let go of old feelings. You loved your ex a lot, it sounds like, so it's only natural that you would still be feeling some of those old emotions. Give yourself a break, and don't try to rush yourself. As time goes on, you will naturally think of your old boyfriend less and less. That is just what happens when someone is no longer around. Even if you feel like you'll never get over him, you might surprise yourself by doing just that, sooner than you think.

While you're still in the process of moving on, it's okay to date new people, especially when they "sweep you off your feet". However, don't rush yourself to fall in love with this new guy, or worry about how much you are "letting him into your heart" completely. You are still hurting from your last relationship, and might not be ready to get serious with someone new. Take it slowly, let your current boyfriend know that you need him to give you some time to catch up with his feelings for you, and just see how it goes.

If the new guy is the "right" guy, he will be respectful of your need to take things slowly, and give you the emotional space you need to figure out your feelings. Over time, and if he treats you well, you may find yourself falling more deeply for him, and comparing him more favorably to the guy that got away.