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Focus On The Healing Process
How many times in the past did you waste weeks being upset over something, and now you realize it was all for the best anyway? Or, how many times did you struggle through a hard time in your life, but later you realized that you learned something big from the ordeal?
It's important to focus on the knowledge that, given time, you'll be able to look back on your experience and take important lessons from it. This may not seem like a helpful thing to hear when you're still in pain, but you have to intellectually know that you will take something positive out of the pain you're feeling now, even if that seems like a stupid thing to think right now. Give your intellect some credit, and some say in how you're going to handle this time in your life.
Act Happy Before You Feel Happy
You have to trust that, in time, the heavy fog hanging over your life will become clear. Until then: pretend, pretend, pretend. Don't feel like smiling your way through school? Try smiling at people for a morning. They'll smile back. You'll feel a teeny bit better for being smiled at. You'll be amazed at how much acting like you feel a certain way helps you actually feel that way.
Be Your Own BFF
Talk to yourself like you'd talk to a close friend who was going through the same thing. In other words, tell yourself this is horrible now, but it was meant to be. Tell yourself that you know it's for the best. That you know something good will come out of it. That it's better it happened now rather than later down the road, like if you had gotten married and had to get divorced and break the news to your poor kids. Keep telling yourself until you listen.
Learn What You Can, And Move On
As things start to become more clear - and you see what was wrong with the relationship and what could have happened differently - figure out if you really had control over what happened. Maybe you could have changed some things. Others, you couldn't.
Deal with the things you could have changed, and realize it's now in the past and doesn't matter. Think about what qualities your boyfriend had that you want in future boyfriends, and what ones you don't. Realize that is valuable information for your future happiness.
