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Have you been stomped on by love? We have tips to help you go from hopeless to happy again.
Keep Hope Alive
If you start forgetting what you ever felt like when you weren't miserable, it's time for a reality check. Even after a very tough breakup, when you are feeling sadness and despair, it's important that you look over the horizon of those feelings and remain aware that somewhere, deep down, there IS a kernel of hope.
Maybe you don't feel it now, but you can see it off in the distance if you look. If you can't find it, keep looking. Remember this: you were not put on this Earth to be alone.
Wallow, But Then Stop Wallowing
When you break up, your instinct can be to hide from the world, stay home in your pajamas, listen to sad love songs, eat junk food (or not eat at all), watch brain-dead TV and cry all day long. This is normal. You should not feel guilty about "wasting your life" doing this... because you're going to stop soon.
After a couple of weeks of hiding away and wallowing in your hurt feelings, you must pick yourself up and make contact with people again. Set a limit on how long you will mourn alone. Two or three weeks should be the very maximum. Write the deadline date for moping on your calendar in red (if you don't have a calendar, buy one).
Then get up on that day, say "today's the day I move on with my life" and force yourself to do something with other people and NOT mention your ex for the whole day. Take it one day at a time, but get through that day. Then get throught the next one. And so on. You will get a feeling of achievement from doing this.
Another thing you could do is to set aside a period of time each day for wallowing. For example, from 7:00 to 8:00 every night. If you catch yourself mourning over him during the day, say to yourself "I'll think about it between seven and eight" and go on with your day. This works.
