The One Who Flirts First
byon May 21, 2009 at 06:11 PM (8450 Views)
"To me, there is no greater act of courage than being the one who kisses first.”
She's right, of course. But sometimes, it can feel crazy-risky to even flirt first, when it comes to a guy you really like.
You know what I'm talking about... you like him, you're sort of friends, you talk when you see each other, but you've never really been in a one-on-one situation and definitely not outside of school.
Then you catch a glimpse of him pulling off his shirt on a hot day, or he smiles a certain way in a certain moment, or you hear through the grapevine that he broke up with his long-time girlfriend, and suddenly, there you are, with a crush on a guy you'd only ever thought of (okay, mostly) as a friend.
So do you flirt? If you're me, you're of two minds. One the one hand, flirting might seem a little dangerous, especially since there's the risk he will get what you're up to, but won't flirt/like you back.
But then there's the possibility that he will take you up on your flirting, and flirt back with you, and then at the very least you'll be having fun flirting, and at the most you'll be, maybe, on your way to something more.
But in that moment when you first see him far away down the hall, and during that long walk toward him, when you're both locked onto each other's eyes and giving a friendly smile, it's torture.... and it's awesome... arg.
Amazing how one guy can make a girl so flipped out!