Dear Jellybean,
I have a problem with teasing. I have this really close guy friends who always teases me about my boobs. I am 13, and I have big boobs, and he is always talking about my boobs in front of his parents. I am so embarassed. I never wear tight t shirts, cuz he stares at me. I know he doesnt mean to embarass me..He only started doing it, after this guy who liked me told me he liked me only for my boobs. Now he is always saying in front of his parents "Joe* (the guy that only liked me for my boobs - not real name) wants to reach out and grab your boobies" or "Well ur boobs are kind of big...." It's so embarrassing... he does this in front of his parents. ANd I see his MOM every week (she works at our school) and I see his Dad/or talk to him a lot too. Please help me. Why does he do this to me? And how should I handle it? And how can I appreciate my big boobs? Thanks!
-Crystal
Dear Crystal,
Why does he do it? Three reasons:
-He is a boy
-Boys are obsessed with breasts
-Boys (generally) are immature
Yes, your friend - that very same guy who you're close to, who always had your back, who saw you as an equal - has proven himself to be just another foolish idiot-of-a-boy when it comes to your female anatomy. Now that your guy friend has realized you have breasts (since it was pointed out to him in such a rude manner), it's all he can think about.
So what can you do? Let him know you're not okay with being reduced to one of your body parts. Be very direct about it - it's easy. Next time your friend mentions your breasts, wait until he finishes, then look him straight in the eye, and without even a HINT of a smile, calmy say in your most deadly-serious voice, "You know what? I don't want you talking about my breasts anymore. Period. That's the last time I want to hear them mentioned, EVER."
That's pretty much bound to work. And if it doesn't shock him into acting like a human being around you again, say the same thing again, even louder - and this time, do it in front of his parents, preferably his mom. Trust me, you shouldn't have a problem with the issue after that!
