SHE WANTS HER OLD MOM BACK

Dear Jellybean,

Me and my mom used to be really close and she just loved my boyfriend. Now we can never get along and fight horribly. I used to could talk to her about anything but now it's like she has her mind set that I'm just like my brother and sister and I'm just gonna screw her over or something and she hates my boyfriend and says that I care about him more than her or anything else. I try to talk to her and be mature about it without yelling but she gets mad and just throws everything up in my face and says I dont even care about her. I tried to do something with her this coming weekend but she just decided to send me to my dads house. She keeps pushing me farther and farther away and she's about to move 6 hours away but I'm gonna stay with my dad because me and her can't get along. I have no idea what to do anymore, I tried talking to her and writing her a letter but it wouldnt work. I want my old mom back. Can you help me please?
-So Confused

Dear So Confused,

You've tried talking to your mom, and writing a letter, which would have been my suggestions. It's hard to know why your mom is acting the way she is. It could be about you guys, or it could be related to something else going on in her life and mind. Maybe she's feeling stressed about the move and is taking it out on you, or maybe she's secretly terrified that you love your dad better, and it's making her act strangely.

Not living with your mom anymore is a very big decision, and I'm going to advise you to try one more thing before you close that door. Ask your mom if she'd be willing to go to see a counselor with you. Tell her that you love her, you miss your old relationship, and you're scared that after she moves you two will drift apart. Tell her she's your only mom, and you don't want that to happen. A counselor might be able to help you two talk things out, in an honest, open and safe environment, so you can work out the issues that have changed your relationship, before your mom leaves.

I sincerely hope that your mother is willing to do this with you, so you can repair this extremely important relationship. Good luck to you. And if all else fails... show her this letter, which if nothing else, will show her how sincere your desire is to become close to her again.