INVITE HER TO THE PARTY?

Dear Jellybean,

I have a question regarding party invites. I am planning a big sweet sixteen party and as I was doing my invites I was contemplating whether or not to invite a girl that I don't exactly get along with. In Jan., she transferred to my school from another and other the next few months we became really close. But in May we had a huge arguement and stopped talking.During that period, she kept harrassing me by talking bad to my friends about me, through text messages and even myspace. We didn't talked for a long time, but we started talking again after a mutual friend passed away. Over the summer, we continued to talked but as it stands now we haven't talked for about a month. I don't know what I am going to do, because if I don't invite her she might make my life miserable just like she did when we had the arguement. What should I do?? Help.
Thanks,
Becca

Dear Becca,

It's pretty normal to fall out of touch with someone over the summer. People get busy, they go on vacations, they attend camp, and so on. Not talking to this girl for a month might not mean anything - you girls could still return to school and end up being friends. So if that's your only reason not to invite her to the party, you might as well send an invitation.

Since you say that your party is going to be a big one, I think your best move is to invite this girl. If she isn't really a friend today, she might become one tomorrow, after being invited to your party and hanging out with you and your buds. Or, she might come, eat some food, hang out a bit, get bored and then leave. Either way, not bad.

And if this girl doesn't have a real interest in being your friend, she might get the invite but skip the party. But you should still send it, so you haven't rejected her. It sounds terrible, but it's not a bad idea for you to make a "preventative" move against this girl, since she has a habit of starting trouble when she's on the outs with someone.