Dear Jellybean,
Well here's my problem my friend is like obsessed with guys!! Yes i admit i like guys too but not to the extent she does, she's constantly trying to get me and my other friends to set her up with guys we know. There's not a conversation we've had lately that doesnt revolve around her telling me about how all these guys are hitting on her or flirting with her. i don't get it if alllll these guys like her why does she want us (being me and my other friends) to set her up with our guy friends. if i hear another story about guys flirting with her i swear i'll freak.
-Sincerely,
Miss fed up
Dear Miss fed up,
Your friend isn't doing anything all that wrong. She's boy crazy - it happens to the best of us sometimes. She flirts with guys, she wants to be set up with other guys, she's just all about guys! Especially in the teen years, when a girl first starts getting lots of attentions from the opposite sex, this type of behavior is fairly common. Of course, that doesn't mean it can't be annoying to a girl's friends.
If all this boy-talk is driving you batty, just let your friend know - nicely. Put it in a way that doesn't single out your friend as doing anything wrong. You could say something like, "Omg, I feel like all we talk about is boys. We're more interesting than that! Let's have a whole day (or class, or locker break) where we don't talk about boys - I bet we can do it!" Making it a shared little game might work.
If not, you'll have to decide whether you can put up with it - or if you need to give your friend a little space. Sometimes the best solution, when a friend is on your nerves, is to create a little distance. If she misses you and reaches out, you can tell her honestly - but kindly - that you were getting fed up with the focus always being on guys and flirting, and you needed a break. Talking honestly with each other may be the best way to iron this out.
