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Dear Jellybean,

I go to a private high school with an environment that is very friendly for the most part. It is relatively a small school where everyone is friendly and knows each other. I know a lot of nice people there and have great friends who are funny, kind, and don't normally judge others. But here's the only problem-there is one girl in our group, lets call her Tina for now, who is always teased by my other friends. To be honest, she may not be the prettiest or most fashionable girl and she has done and said few things that are odd.

Every person from every group makes fun of her and talks about her, even the people who she considers her friends (me, other girls in our group, etc.). One day during lunch, my friends had mentioned a "Karen" and i was itching to know who that was, and an hour later I found out that "Karen" was Tina's code name so that they can talk about her without her finding out.

Now everyone in our school has been referring to her with her code name. Everyday my friends would be talking about her (looks, eating habits, weight, clothes, behavior, etc.), and when they do so, i just shut up and not join in. Although she is not my favorite person either, I try to be nice to her like I should, and I feel really bad for her because she doesn't have too many real friends who care about her. I know my friends are nice people who don't like to judge others, but it seems as though Tina is the exception that they actually do judge. I'm wondering if there is anything i can do about it other than being nice to her like i am. I'm not sure I'm comfortable with the idea of confronting my friends and telling them how i feel about them gossiping about her, but I wish they would stop teasing her because I know they are not liking that and that they would never do that to me or to each other.

Sincerely,

The "Way Too Nice" One