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Dear Jellybean,

I've been trying to break my "friendship" with this girl and she just doesn't get it. I call it a "friendship", because I've been her pity friend since about seventh grade and she seems to think we're BFFs. I tried the whole ignoring thing, but she's just so incredibly persistent and annoying. It also doesn't help that our siblings go to the same school and that we go to the same church, so I'm always running into her. To be completely honest, I can't stand her. And after five years, it's pretty hard to convince someone as (can't think of an adjective) as her that we're not friends.

We're both juniors in highschool, but she's homeschooled (so she doesn't hangout a lot). That was an absolute blessing, or so I thought. It was great for the first few months, because I never saw her and didn't bother answering my phone whenever she called or texted. After a while, maybe a month, I thought she had it in her head that we weren't friends. No... she started calling me at least ten times a day. Then we started seeing each other at church, functions, and she tried to visit me at school. I recently went to a retreat and I knew she was going to be there too, but I didn't think we'd end up in the same group. I hadn't seen her in about three or four months. She was incredibly pissed off at me, but clung to me the whole weekend. I almost threw a fit.

What's even worse is, I don't want to look like a bad person to her family. I like her family and they like me, but I don't want to be friends with her and "tough it out". Our relationship just isn't worth it. I'm so tired of pretending like there's something there.

I must seem like a horrible person for wanting to cut this girl completely out of my life, but when there's nothing there, there's nothing there.

-Alexa