BREAKING UP WAS A MISTAKE

Dear Jellybean,

I made a horrible mistake in breaking up with my ex. We had been friends (we have a close group of mutual friends too) & dated for a year & a half. Thats when i got frustrated. He didnt kiss me that much, but i think it was just cause hes shy; he was very affectionate in other ways, & i felt like we werent talking as much as we used to. So I called him (i know the phone was bad but i just couldnt bring myself to do it in person) & told him id rather be just friends. that was about 4 months ago. He didnt talk to me for a month, but then we started talking online sometimes, acting like nothing had happen. Recently weve been talking more, but there were a few weeks when we didnt after i hooked up with another guy that went to his school. i dont know if he heard but it doesnt really matter i guess, i know that it was really stupid & i wish i could take it back. anyway he didnt bring it up but hes talking to me again, although we still havent seen each other. now i really miss him though & i want him back. im not happy being just friends. he was just so perfect for me even though i didnt realize it at the time...we had the same sense of humor & he liked me for who i was. i really want to tell him that i made a mistake but im scared that i waited too long & that he'll have moved on or he wont like me that way anymore. & id like to tell him in person if i didnt lose my nerve but i dont know when im going to see him again. what should i do?

Dear Writer,

If you two are meant to be, it's never too late. That is, there's a chance he still feels something for you. But don't go blurting out a love confession, before you have a better idea of what's on his mind.

Can you figure out a way to get together with him? It might be hard to make a relationship happen, or even get closer to him again as a friend, if you're never spending time together. Maybe you could invite him out with a group of girl and guy friends. That way, you'll get to hang out, plus there won't be any weird pressure, because you'll be in a group.

You could also invite him to a school dance, or a party. You could make it as part of a group of people going together, or invite him as your date if you're feeling bold. Or, just ask him as your friend. Whatever excuse you come up with to see him, when you're in his presence, you will probably get a better idea of where you wo stand right now.

Don't worry about what happened when you two were apart. That hook up is in the past, and it doesn't have anything to do with your feelings for your friend. Just make time to spend with him, let things develop naturally, and hope for the best. Good luck!