WHAT'S THE RIGHT CHOICE?

Dear Jellybean,

For two years, I had a huge crush on his boy. Let's call him Wes. So after two years of liking Wes (and he liked me back), he found a way to break my heart. Then, after taking a few months to get over him, I unwantingly developed a crush on my best friend's crush. I know, it's a horrible thing to do, but I liked him anyway. And, great, he likes me back. See, a normal girl would probably feel happy about this. However, I feel guilty...but I still really like him. And I miss Wes, a lot. I've tried the whole 'take a break from guys' thing, but I always seem to fail miserably at that. The thing that Wes did to break my heart wasn't his fault in the first place, it was a misinterpretation on my part. What do you think? Should I give a relationship with Wes another try, or keep hanging out with my friend's crush?
-Seeing Double

Dear Seeing Double,

You feel guilty for a good reason. That's your best friend's crush! It's nice that he likes you back, but how would your BFF feel if you dated him? If you have any inklings that it would mess up your friendship, don't do it. Guys come and go, but real BFFs are hard to find.

You don't have to take a break from guys, but maybe it's time to stop stressing about having a boyfriend, like, now. Of course you want a guy to call your own, but please, don't just date any guy because you're looking to fill the job description of "boyfriend".

Wes broke your heart, and now you're making excuses for him (yes you are). Why give him another chance to do the same thing? Realize that neither he nor your friend's crush are the right guy for you, and open your eyes to other possibilities. My answer to your question, should you give your relationship with Wes another try, or hang out with your friend's crush is: Neither. Take the third option, moving on from both of them and looking for someone else to care about.

And DON'T rush! A guy who's really worth giving your heart to might take a while to find... but trust me, it's worth the effort. Focus on finding someone who you really care about, and who treats you well, not just somebody who's willing to date you. Liking you back is only a small part of what a guy should offer, in order to earn the honour of being your boyfriend. Believe that, and live it!