IS SHE WASTING HIGH SCHOOL?

Dear Jellybean,

I've had a "thing" with my best friend (who happens to be a guy) for about 3 years. I really like him and I cant let him go. everyone in the school thinks he likes me and I know that I like him, but I don’t know what he's thinking. He sends me lots of mixed signals all the time. I'm the only girl he ever talks to so its hard to compare what we have to how he acts around other girls. I know he cares about me, but I'm the one that has to call him and talk or ask him to do something he usually never calls me. I don’t know if that’s just because he's a guy and guys aren't usually social or if he just doesn’t want to hang out cause he doesn’t like me bu doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. I never know what he's thinking and I just feel like I'm wasting my high school waiting for him. what should I do?

Dear Writer,

You shouldn't waste your high school years waiting for any guy. Waiting is not living. And I could be wrong, but from what you tell me, you're waiting on the wrong guy.

He might be amazing, you might get along great, and in your mind, you could make the perfect couple. But in all honesty, when a guy likes a girl, especially a girl he is friends with, he will make excuses to talk to her, get her attention and get near her. If you're the one doing all the calling and making plans, I think you have to face the truth - he's "just not that into you."

It's probably not what you wanted to hear. But if it keeps you from putting your life on hold unnecessarily, then it's better you know it now. If you doubt my conclusion, by all means, ask your guy friend up-front if he'd like to go out with you on a proper date, and give seeing each other a try. But if you think I'm right, then spend a little less time with this friend, and a little more having fun with other friends and keeping your eyes open for a new crush. Life is out there to be lived, so maybe it's time to get off the sidelines and hang up that old crush.