SHOULD SHE DATE GUY FRIEND?

Dear Jellybean,

heyy i just found out that one of my best guy friends like me. His best friend told me and always asks me about him. i never really know what to say because i honestly have NO clue if i like him or not. His best friend asks me if i want him to ask me out but i always just tell him that if he likes me enough that he will do it on his own. i kind of want to go out with him but when we break up things will get akward. and espically if i break up with him. but then if i say no things will also get akward. I also think his friend told him he told me he likes me because he dosnet sit with me at lunch anymore. we use to every day! i dont knoww. but i guess i have a few questions in here and just some general advice would he helpful. thanks!

Dear Writer,

I think you've handled this really well so far. It was smart to tell his friend that if your guy friend likes you, he should ask you out himself. So now what?

It's a bit ironic that you're worried about things getting awkward if you said no to your friend, because as far as I can tell, things are pretty awkward already. You're not talking like you used to, or sitting together at lunch, and that's some weirdness.

My best advice to you is, work on the friendship and see what follows. Go up to your guy friend and say, "Hey, I haven't seen you at lunch for the last few days, don't you want to be my lunch buddy anymore?" Keep it light, and on a friendship level. Chat about silly stuff, find time to hang out, and focus on making the friendship stronger and better.

As you two get closer as friends, there will come a point where you start to think about it being more... or there won't. In other words, the only way you'll know if you could be attracted to him as a boyfriend, is to spend more time with him and see how your feelings develop.