HER FRIENDS SAY DUMP HIM

Dear Jellybean,

I'm going out with a boy. He's a really nice guy, but I dont really like him anymore and my friends can tell. They want me to break up with him, but i dont want to hurt his feelings.My friends want me to go out with another guy too. The thing is i went out with him once and i ruined it( But he forgave me for it.).I dont know what to do!!! Help!!!
-Lost

Dear Lost,

Poor guy. Break up with him. Then ask your friends what you should wear when you go to school tomorrow. Just kidding, but only just.

You do have to end your relationship with this guy. You don't care for him, so all you're doing by continuing to date him is lie to him, and make a fool of him. How do you think he'd feel if he could read this letter, and know it was about him? End things with him kindly. Tell him he's a great guy, but you just don't think it's working between you. Blame it on you, not him. And don't give him any hope that you'll get back together, if you know that's not true. He deserves to be free, if you don't really care about him, to find someone who will love him in return.

As for what happens next, maybe you need to consider how much your friends are controlling your life. You say they want you to go out with another guy. Are they going to kiss him for you, and buy his birthday presents too? Listen, you can only do what your friends want for so long, before you turn into a puppet. You need to make your own decisions about who to date, who to break up with, etc. It's your life. Don't let other people live it - and control it - for you.