NOT ATTRACTED TO BF

Dear Jellybean,

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month now. Well, not to be mean to my guy, but he's not the most attractive guy ever. In my opinion, kind of a dork, in a good way though. So i'm kind of loosing my physical attraction for him. Like i love his personality, he's amazing, and i know that that is all that should matter, but it truly doesn't i found. I am to shy and scared to hurt his feelings by telling him to change his look. I am not going to break up with him just because he doesn't reach my expectations, yet i think he needs a bit of a change. And my guy is kind of full of himself and he thinks that he's great and I just don't want to hurt his ego.
Thank you oh so very much,
Accepting him

Dear Accepting him,

To put a spin on a famous football quote, "Chemistry isn't everything, it's the only thing." The feelings you describe having for your boyfriend are friendship, not love. You can tell yourself his qualities should add up to attraction, and repeat it until you're blue in the face. But after a month of dating, if you're still not attracted to him, you're never going to be.

You'd be doing your BF a huge favor if you broke up with him. He deserves to have a girlfriend who thinks he's awesome in every department, not one who secretly believes she's doing him a huge favor by dating him, or who's dating him out of pity. You both have an ideal partner out there - but neither of you has that person now.

If your guy's ego is so big, he'll be able to handle the breakup fine. In fact, he be happier after, because he'll be free to find someone who appreciates everything he's got, more than you do. And you'll be free to find a boyfriend who does live up to your expectations, and doesn't disappoint you in the looks (or whatever else) department.

Whatever you do, just don't go trying to change this guy. He might not be good enough for you, but he's good enough for somebody. People don't really ever change - that's why it's important to find a person to love who you accept for the qualities they have now, not the ones you wish they had. After all, that's what we all want for ourselves, right? Keep that in mind, and your next relationship will probably go more smoothly from the start.