BAND GIG VS. CRUSH

Dear Jellybean,

About 3 weeks ago I met this guy through a school talent show that we were both in. We pretty much hit it off right away. A few days after that I went and saw his band play. Then he asked me if I'd be interested in singing backup for the band because they'd been looking for a singer. I love singing so I said yes, of course. Fast forward 2 weeks, and I've been hanging out with him and singing and doing music stuff but also friend stuff like going to the movies. Now, I'm starting to really like him. I told him that, and he said he likes me too. BUT (yep, theres a but) he already promised his band he wouldn't date me, since I'm going to be in the band. So I'm totally stuck on what to do. I'm not going to quit the band, because I already committed myself to it. But I have real chemistry with this guy and that is rare. And he said if it weren't for the band he'd totally date me. So basically my question is I guess, should I make a move? He already knows I want to. Should I take the chance? I mean, what should I do?!

Dear Writer,

You can't have both the band and the gig. You must choose between them. If you really want to give dating this guy a try, you must quit the band. I wouldn't fret too much about breaking the commitment, because backup singers are pretty easy to find - after all, tons and tons of girls want to hang with a cool band and sing onstage. So they'll find someone else in about a minute - which takes you off the hook, guilt-wise.

If you do decide to stick with the band, you need to have a friends-only policy with this guy. Otherwise, you could end up undermining his friendships with his band-mates, not to mention focing him to break his promise to them. That's not cool.

So you have a choice. Guy or band. Which will you opt for? It's up to you!