STILL LOVING HER EX

Dear Jellybean,

So I'm in need of some serious advice! Next Friday I'll be seeing my ex-boyfriend for the first time in 8 months. Let me give you a little background story on the situation first...so him and I were together for 16 months. We had a great relationship. We were like two peas in a pod and inseperable. We had no doubt in our minds that we were going to be together the rest of our lives. I know many people say this, and it sounds juvenile, but we were just perfect for each other. Now go to the end of our relationship... it ended so abrubtly. We were hitting a few rocky spots, but I thought we were working it out. He did a 360 with his personality and broke up with me. I was devastated. I didn't know what to do for the longest time. To make things worse he went and got himself a new girlfriend a couple of weeks after we broke up. Since he went on with his life I also had to move on. I traveled during the summer to get my mind off of things, and just did the best I could to enjoy my summer. When College started I was ready to date again. I dated one guy for a little while and another after that, but it just never felt right. No matter how hard I tried I couldn't stop thinking of my ex. How can you let someone go that you can't go a day without thinking about? So, now that you have a little background I need advice. Next week he'll be coming home from Arizona where he goes to college. I just found out he broke up with his girlfriend because she couldnt stand the long distance any more. We're going out to lunch next week and I'm afraid of saying things that will jepordize getting back together. What should I do to get him back. I know it would make me happier than anything in this world and Id even be willing to do the long distance. I love him more than anything still and would wait as long as it took for him. I just really want to know what to do to get him back...
-Still in Love

Dear Still in Love,

You two have been through a lot together. I think you've earned the right to express your feelings honestly. Game-playing isn't going to work at this point anyway, because he knows you too well and will probably see right through it.

So go to lunch, find out what he's been up to, and fill him in on your life too. Then when it seems appropriate, tell him that you've been unable to stop thinking about him, and what it would be like if you dated again. Don't go on at length, just state it that simply and concisely (in your own words, of course). Then turn the floor over to him, and see what he has to say about it.

If he's not interested, you'll find out pretty quickly, and then you can start picking up the pieces and moving on with your life. And if he is interested, and there's still a love connection between you two, no amount of distance matters if you both work at reuniting.