WILL SHE EVER HAVE A BF?

Dear Jellybean,

I've never been in a relationship and I'm in my second to final year of high school. I know it's normal for people not to start dating yet but I feel some what...discouraged.

I've been rejected horribly by guys as in they begin to harass me and bully. I've talked to my mom, it's because I cross that friendship line too much, I'm not the girly-girl. I'm less of a girl then any girl in my school.

I don't wear makeup I laugh at those silly jokes that most of my female friends don't think are so funny and I'm far from flirty. It just bothers me that all my female friends are always in serious relationships (Not just little short ones) but serious ones that last.

I just feel like I'll never meet anyone and I go to a small school so the selection of boys are limited. I just don't know how to NOT cross that friendship line and to b,e seen as one of the guys. As well as how to quit the fear of rejection. Ideas?
-Discouraged

Dear Discouraged,

Don't go changing - that's my first idea. You're a non-girly girl, who has a silly sense of humour, and isn't into makeup. That's you, and it's cool. So ditch any ideas of makeovers - personality or superficial - in order to get a guy. You'd just end up with some guy who isn't what you want.

If you've been rejected badly by guys, it's possible that you give away too much of your heart, too soon. It's dangerous territory, confessing your feelings to someone without a pretty good idea of how he feels about you first. That's why it's better to become friends with a guy, then flirt a bit, and check out the signals, before asking someone out, or making a move.

I know you feel like you'll never meet anyone, but you will. You may have to expand your social network a bit though, since you go to such a small school. Consider getting into after-school activities at a community center, signing up for a tae kwon do class, or getting into a local sports league, that introduces you to people who don't go to your school. Not only will you gain confidence as you learn new skills, but you'll make new friends (hopefully some of them guys) and maybe even meet someone you make a romantic connection with.