WILL THEY EVER GET BACK TOGETHER?

Dear Jellybean,

First thing you need to know, as awkward as it may be for some people, i am a female bisexual. I'm sorry if this is offensive to you, but it's the way i am. Anway, i had this girlfriend. And I realllyy love her, we have broken up twice because her family is going through divorce and she doesnt want me around.. i guess. i dont know. i broke up with her the first time because she was so sad. then i asked her back out again. then she broke up with me. Another fact you should probably know, is during that week i went to a football game and being totally un-serious i kissed my best friend. later my gf found out by her sister. Now we seem ok and she flirts with me and i love her, and call her babyface. She calls me sweetie and says she loves my 24/7, but that's only over the phone. In person we just look like straight best friends. but i want sooo much more. So my questions are;; 1. why did she realy break up with me? 2. does she really still love me. And (your opinion) 3. will we ever get back together?!
-Hopeless and loveless?

Dear Hopeless,

First thing you need to know is, I'm not a bigot. Love is love, as far as I'm concerned, whether it's between a girl and a guy, or two girls, or two guys. So my advice to you is going to be exactly the same as I'd give to any other girl with a love problem. The fact that your significant other is a girl, and not a guy, makes not a whit of difference to me. Got it?

Now let's get to your questions. As for #1, I don't know why she broke up with you, because I can't read minds, much as I'd love to have that skill. Maybe she found you too clingy, or maybe she was dealing with so much family drama that she couldn't handle a relationship on top of all that. Maybe she heard that you kissed your BFF, and she decided that you're not that trustworthy. It could be any one of those things, or all of them. The fact is, she did break up with you, and that's all you can know for sure, unless you ask her straight out and she gives you an honest answer.

For question #2, does she really still love you, again that's something that you need to ask your ex. It certainly sounds like there is still affection between you. But what you need to know is, love isn't always enough. If a relationship is going to work, there needs to be trust, good communication, respect and other good stuff like that, in addition to love. If one person feels like one of those is lacking, then they could decide that even though they have loving feelings, it's not worth pursuing a relationship.

As to question #3, will you ever get back together, that's up to both of you. For now, I'd recommend strengthening your friendship, and building up those things that I mentioned above (trust, respect and communication). That means, don't go kissing other people if your goal is to get her back, whether or not you think anyone's there to witness it; treat her with kindness and listen to what she says, not just what you want to hear; and when you have a question about her feelings, or feel like you want to tell her something, say it straight out, without expecting her to read your mind, or trying to read yours.

I know that it's tough to be patient when you love someone, and just want to be with them, but I think that patience is your best bet right now. Give your friend/ex some space to breathe if she needs it, get that honest communication going, and see where things go naturally. I wish you luck.