GO FOR SEMI-TAKEN GUY?

Dear Jellybean,

I have this crush on a guy but the thing is he is "supposedly" going out with one of my friends from school. What do I mean when I say "supposedly"? Well its kind of complicated. See the thing is she has a boyfriend already and now she is with him too. And I really like this boy and seeing him like her and being with her and her treating him like that makes me mad. And he knows what she is doing too. A couple of my friends say I should go for it and get with him but I'm so confused. Why can't he see that there is a girl right in front of him that won't treat him that way. What should I do? Should I tell him how I feel and try to be with him or keep my feelings a secret and not let him know?
-So confused

Dear So confused,

I'd say go for it... except that I think you could end up being hurt. There's no reason, technically, why you shouldn't go after this guy. After all, he isn't your friend's boyfriend (some other guy is). But my common sense tells me, you shouldn't go after some guy who is so into another girl that he'd even date her when she's got another boyfriend, and let her treat him like dirt. A guy who puts up with that kind of treatment and still sticks with a girl is seriously head-over-heels, or he'd be long gone.

So don't tell him you feel. It would feel pretty bad to be rejected by him, and to hear he's in love with somebody else. He might also tell your friend, which could lead to some embarrassment if she gets mad and tells other people about it, or worse, gets them laughing about it. Wait until this guy gets tired of being treated badly, or being someone's "supposed" boyfriend, and stops hanging out with your friend. Then he's fair game, and you can go after him, if you still want to.