WHY HASN'T HE MADE A MOVE?

Dear Jellybean,

Hello, there's this guy I met at the start of college and I've fallen terribly for him. He's unlike any guy I've ever met- neat, organized, completely un-macho, everything opposite of the male stereotype and everything I've ever looked for. We are together all the time, at least in the evenings and on weekends (when we don't have classes). We eat meals together, hang out in each others rooms til the wee hours of the morning, and everything. Anyways, he knows how I feel about him and he denies feeling the same, but everyone, including his roommate disagrees. His body language towards me, some of the things he's said to me, and how often he is with me are all contributing factors. We flirt all the time and he is not the type to mess with anyones head. He's a genuine sweetheart, even if he is completely unaware of it (which he is most of the time.) He's also commented on my clothing and nuances in me, he knows when things bother me, and nothing has gotten awkward between us. The other day, I asked him what all his keys were for and he responded with "they're the keys to my heart." I'm so confused and I don't know what to do. He's already denied feelings for me twice and he knows how I feel about being toyed with. It wouldn't be like him to say something like that without thinking. What should I do?

Dear Writer,

This guy may love you... but I'm 99 percent sure it's just the love of a good friend. Why do I say this? Because honey, I think your friend might be gay.

Yep. He might not even know it himself, or he might know and be afraid to let others know his secret. But when I hear about a "sweetheart" of a guy who is "neat, organized, completely un-macho and everything opposite of the male stereotype" (those are your words), I think of my dear gay friend Andrew, with whom I've sat up many a late night, flirting and talking like crazy, and who loves my fashion choices too, but who would sooner jump off a building than make out with me.

I could be totally wrong - after all, it's hard to judge a person's sexuality when you've never met them. But it just makes sense. Plus, your friend has denied feelings for you, and it doesn't sound like he's the type to play games with someone he cares about.

My advice is, don't count on a relationship with your friend, other than the one you have now, of being great friends. That might be all that he can give to you - and hey, that's a lot. You can also let your guy friend know, through your actions and your words, that you're an open-minded friend who can be counted on to listen to whatever he has to tell you, and who can keep a secret... just in case he ever wants to confide in you about anything major.