CRUSH HAS A GIRLFRIEND

Dear Jellybean,

I am in a dilemma because I have fallen for a close friend of mine. This friend of mine has a girlfriend and I just get this sensation when I am with him, like I can be myself and have fun around him. But I'm not sure what to do. I thought about asking him to go to a Spanish Club dinner with me, but I am not sure if I should do that. And if I do...how should I ask him? I just really need some advice!
Thanks!
Hopeless Romantic

Dear Hopeless Romantic,

You know that sensation you're feeling? Make sure nobody else can tell! Your guy has a girlfriend, so he is off-limits to you as more than a friend, at least for now. If his girlfriend gets a feeling that you like him as more, she could do serious damage to your friendship, or even get her friends to gang up against you.

Keep on spending time with your guy friend, and having "friend" fun with him. But don't do anything to let him, or anyone else (aka his GF) know that you like him. Be careful about confessing your feelings to any of your friends too, because they could blab. If your feelings continue, you'll have to wait for your guy friend to break up with his girlfriend - at which point you can be there to support him, cheer him up, and maybe even start dating him. But as long as he keeps his girlfriend, you need to keep your "sensation" on the DL.

As for the Spanish Club dinner, whether or not you should ask him is all about how it would look. Would you have asked him to go, back before you had a crush on him? Or is it really a "bring a date" kind of situation? If you're only asking him because you have a crush, and you wouldn't ask him if you didn't, then forget about it. His girlfriend will be onto you, and you might have a hard time hiding your feelings. But if this is the normal kind of thing you guys do together as friends, and always have, then ask away... as long as you know you can keep up the "just friends" appearance and not act weird around him, because of your crush.